Showing posts with label marriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label marriage. Show all posts

Wednesday, January 19, 2011

Marriage Phase that You Should Know

When getting married, many people think that they will always feel an overwhelming love as they feel when entering the gates of marriage. Virtually, every marriage will through many different stages. Some couples may get more out of these stages compared to other couples, but in the end you will face all stages because you're moving toward something beautiful.
Of course, the last phase is the phase that not all couples ever experience it because they were not aware of these phases and chose to give up in the middle of the road.

The Beginning Phase of Marriage

This phase is one of the best because it felt great! This is the period in your life that your partner seems to be created just for you and you think that he was perfect; although in real life, he may just seemed perfect.

When you are in the early stages of this marriage, you will have more energy, you will feel great, you will have a very positive outlook, and you feel not enough words to describe how incredible your partner. This period is an exciting time in the marriage because you can not separate from it and you spend a lot of time to dream about your future together.

Cooling off phase

In this phase a lot of married couples may get divorce and have tensions in their household relationship. The early days of marriage in which all feeling an overwhelming love that began to decrease and this is because most of the chemicals in our brains begin to return to normal.

We feel so extraordinary in the first phase of the wedding and now we begin to wonder what had happened, whether we have been getting married to the right people, and why this person no longer makes us feel good. Many people who begin to wonder whether they should end the marriage instead of having to live like this.

In this period, many couples struggle power within relationships. Each person tries to walk according to his own, setting standards, and always feel right. In fact, many couples who struggle in which both parties feel is right and this is causing a lot of tension. The remarkable is in this stage will lead you to bigger things and better if you can survive.

Sharing and Changed Phase

If you successfully pass the second stage, you probably will reach the third stage and fourth. This is remarkable is when you are in this phase. You will realize that this relationship can be wonderful. You just have to bring the wonderful into your relationships.

People who realize this in advance will lead and help their partner to no longer too worried and frustrated and in line with the time you both start working together to ask for what you want, change behavior, and move forward to find happiness as husband and wife. Both these stages go along because this is the moment of discovery of the truth in your relationship and make it happen through action by changing what needs to be changed and do it to make it more remarkable.

The Time for True Love

If you reached this phase, you will feel as if all the struggle are not in vain. Every relationship reaches this stage at different times. For some couples they need time to 30 years, for other couples may only five or ten years.

The point is you do not have to be rush to reach this stage because everything has the process. When you reach this stage, you will have deep relationship that full of joy and passion and you will start having fun together again, maybe happier than before.

Thursday, May 6, 2010

10 Tips for Your Marriage Durability

Marriage is a form of union of two individuals into one common purpose, a lasting happiness with a partner. However, love alone is not enough because there will be many challenges and problems that arise to disturb the life of house hold. When the interference occurs, just remember Ozirney 10 tips in her Happy Knot: How Your Marriage Can Be (Tate Publishing & Enterprises, New York, 2007)

1. Be Prepared to Make Sacrifices

Any individuals who committed themselves in marriage inevitably have to be prepared to make sacrifices for their partner. Sometimes only in a small matter, it required great sacrifice. Of course this kind of sacrifice must come from both sides. If one being selfish, of course, can be a trigger irritation and treated unjustly.


2. Still Have Time to Yourself

It is nice when you have an activity or hobby that can be done together, but do not forget, you also need to do activities unaccompanied your spouse. At this time, you can clearly reflect your love life back together. Then do the correction themselves about the things you need to do to improve marital happiness and avoid boredom for tandem continues. In addition, all alone for a moment can be used to evaluate how much you miss your partner.


3. Maintaining Intimacy and Romanticism

Husband and wife who've been married for long time are sometimes less concerned about intimacy and romanticism. No more words of praise, have dinner together, even the attention was often so expensive. Yet the key to successful relationships is the little things of value for the couple. Through gestures, words full of love and little attention, the love can be maintained.

By giving a flower, kiss on the cheek, holding hands, praising each other, or a stroll along the romantic places, will return to sprinkle the love of a spouse.


4. Good on Manage Family Finances

Nowadays, most couples are working. Economic factors can not be underestimated. Imagine what would happen if households can not be supported by adequate financial condition. Properly regulate the family economy also will provide security and happiness.


5. Sharing Household Tasks and Child Care

Both of these provide opportunities for couples to work as a solid team. Clearing house activities and child care can be a means to strengthen marriage.


6. Honest and Open Communication

Communication is one of the strong pillars for husband-wife relationship. Many couples reduce their intensity communication because of too busy with their own activities. How communication can be woven seamlessly when couples can not greet each other. So, try to always keep the communication with your partner.

Take time to sit and chat together, even if only five minutes every day. Give him a call or send SMS romantic. Greeting "good morning" or "good night" in bed can also be used to communicate. The point is to create the communication so that each person feels needed.


7. Do not Burry the Problem

Whatever your feelings to your partner, it should always be communicated. Particularly dislike or that would offend you. If you hesitate for fear of embarrassment or trouble, in fact you are being kept bomb ready to explode at any time.

Politely point out your frustration and objective to your partner. If you feel upset or angry, show that you just want him to correct his behavior and did not hate him as a person.


8. Realize Both of You are Different Persons

The difference is not only a short time, but it lasts forever. Be reasonable when the marital bond will always be colored due to the different disputes. Not only differences of opinion but also due to disagreement with other differences. Couples who fail in a marriage are generally placed too high expectations that their partners will change according to their wishes.

While the couple whose wedding is generally preserved due to address differences by differences wisely.
Differences should not have to destroy a marriage, but rather enriching each looking for the best solution by always prioritizing marital happiness.


9. Be Spontaneous

These positive habits can be applied at any time. For instance, create a romantic atmosphere, schedule a dinner out, make love, mutual praise, give attention and other surprises nature.

Spontaneity is useful to avoid boredom in marriage.
Besides who does not like to get a pleasant surprise? Importantly, these shocks must be sincere and full of love.


10. Always Remember the Best Things of Your Partner

What are the best things in your spouse makes the decision to marry him? Always remember the best things of your partner. It will always lead you to some sweet memories are endless and make him feel precious in your eyes.
Everything could have changed. But the reason why you were so loved him will always be etched in his heart. Vice versa, so that both sides will always be committed to maintaining this valuable things, and maintain a marriage.